This morning at 7am I was feeling good as I walked from my car into Pilates. It was early so my mind hadn’t started racing yet and I was tuned into my surrounds. I heard a man get out of his car and say “Hey how ya going?” to another man, the owner of the bicycle shop who was hosing down the pavement in front of his shop, a task I am pretty sure he does daily at this time.
I wasn’t listening out for his answer but was filled with surprise when I heard “Oh you know, just battling along”. What surprised me was the happyish tone he used in saying it, not like he was REALLY battling but like this is just the answer he gave to that question. (deep sigh from me) – Really???
We know the importance of the words we use, right?
All words have energy and ‘battling’ is not the energy most of us want in our life.
I had the next hour and a half to ponder this as I went back and forth on the reformer and I wondered how many people respond with an answer that makes them feel crap when they could respond with an answer that lifts them up to feel the way they want. Me included. My answer is usually “I’m good thanks, how are you?” which is fine, right? It’s not negative and at the same time it doesn’t leave me feeling awesome. Hmmmm what could I say instead? It’s got to be authentic and true. I’m good is true, I’ve been better is also true, but neither of those leave me feeling the way I want to feel, so…..what else is true that I could say that DOES leave me feeling great (and doesn’t sound to dicky 🙂 )
- I am great thanks!
- Feeling REALLY good thanks, how are you?
- I’m actually loving where I am right now thanks.
- I’m feeling really grateful today actually, how are you? (And grateful could be replaced with any other word that matches how I feel on the day, confident, content, peaceful, motivated etc)
What about you?
What is your automatic response to this questions and how does it make you feel?
Would you like a different feeling, a better feeling?
If the answer is yes then what responses could you come up with that feel true and connect you to the feeling you want more of? Maybe you first need to get clear about what feeling you want?